Having faced a lot of disappointing situations in my life, I can boldly say it that disappointments are a part of life and are experienced by everyone. It is like one of the rules that binds life and living; that things won't always work out our way or go as we have planned it. This is definitely not abnormal, it is just part of life and existence in general.
Experiencing disappointing situations isn't abnormal,unheard of or dangerous but dwelling on this situations without making tangible progress is what is dangerous and discouraging.
When something bad or unwanted happens to you, chances are that you want to withdraw totally from that space or experience. You want to do something to help you forget the hurt or see if you can turn back the hands of time. But often times than not, this can't be achieved.
What then can you do when faced with disappointments?
First you need to avoid getting into terrible states because you're sad. This will only add to your worries and negative mood. You need to learn how to deal with that disappointment in a healthier and more beneficial way. Only then can it be less painful and converted to a learning experience for further personal growth.
I’d like to share a few steps that has helped me personally when faced with disappointing situations in this post.
First, you need to accept without denial, how you really feel. Yes you're hurt, that’s not a terrible thing infact that's OK. Don’t try to deny it, hide it under a big smile or push it away. Accept it because then it will go away quicker and in the long run it will be less painful to process what has happened. If you try to deny disappointments, it will later pop up at unexpected times. Then making you moody, pessimistic or aggressive.
Don't zero yourself as a disappointment. Just because you failed or fell victim to something negative does not mean you are a disappointment or a failure.
Also, learn from it.
This is very much important. Learning from your mistakes or from a failure or failed circumstance will not only help you heal or get over the hurt but rather it will give you something to be grateful for from the situation and a lesson to help you avoid such situations or what you can do to avoid being down when faced with similar circumstances.
Getting others perspective on what happened is essential for your healing and for dealing with disappointment.
By letting it all out and venting to your friend or sister you can release that inner pressure and pain you feel, sort things out for yourself, get better ideas or advice and accept what has happened instead of trying to ignore it.
Find energy and motivation again
Your friends or loved ones can help you find your energy and motivation again. You can also help yourself by doing what you know how to do best and what improves your mood.
Getting over disappointing situations can help you build your damaged self esteem . Always remember that whenever you get disappointed, it is part of life and it is not the end of the world. You will arise and come out stronger from this if you're determined and willing to try.
