In my first parent teen article, I categorized teenagers based on the type of parents who raised them and the type pf background/ environment they find themselves. The article continues with
THE WEEKEND PARENT RAISED TEEN
Oye’s father works far away from home, the only times he comes home are on weekends, he doesn’t even show up every weekend, Oye gets all she needs from her mother but she still wishes her father comes home frequently or even everyday like her friend’s father. She was always getting into one argument or the other with her mother. They were always fighting, her mother didn’t seem to understand why she needed her privacy, why
she didn’t like wearing a particular cloth as well. She also needed her father’s re-assuring words and encouragement.
Musa hates the fact that his father who was never around will suddenly show up one weekend trying to re-structure his life in a day. He hates the fact that his father who hardlyhad enough time to get to know him concluded easily about issues concerning him and even tries to make decisions for him. His father was always bossy, annoying and inconsiderate.
THE ABHORED TEEN
Damisi being a member of the school of thought that earrings, trousers, hair perming is a sin, Damisi’s parents prevented their daughter from using any of these. They decided what type of clothes to wear, where she could go and where she could spend her time doing. They never allowed her have friends or visit friends. Damisi secretly wishes she was free, able to express herself as well.
Kunle’s parents are uptight and domineering. They liked to enforce their beliefs and opinion. Kunle was their first child and they wanted him to be great, they wanted him to be the best amongst his equals. They never listened to his own point of view or ideas, they didn’t want him to get too convenient, they never wanted him to play with friends or have time for recreation, all they wanted was for him to gain admission to study medicine in the university.
Kunle was totally disturbed about his bothersome parents.
RICH PARENT RAISED TEEN
Yarinya is beautiful and always well dressed. Not only does she have all she wants she never lacks anything she desires. Except for the fact that her parents were too busy to be home relating with her. Her best friends, advisers and confidants were her friends, the maids and the driver. She hardly saw her parents, her mother was always travelling as well.
Ola’s parents are rich Christians and at the same time they have time to spend with him, he is lucky you would say, but there is one thing Ola desires, to be free, to have a feeling of making it on his own, doing things on his own, achieving feats without the help of his parents and their connections but Ola’s parents wouldn’t have it. They were ready to make life easy for their son to the last, even if it meant spending all their money or using all their connection and position in the society.
THE POORLY RAISED TEEN
Iyi is eighteen and he lives with a good samaritan who accepted to be his guardian when his parents fought and separated he was only fifteen then. His mother alone was left with the responsibility if catering for his siblings, she thereby left him in care of this guardian. Iyi in return helps his guardian with housechores as he gets food and shelter Iyi suffers low self esteem terribly, to crown it all, his guardian's children never relate with him as one of them. He blames his parents constantly and therefore harbours bitterness and pain in his heart.
Ego started working as a maid the minute she finished secondary school. First she worked as a canteen maid before becoming a maid to a widow and her children. Ego became the breadwinner of her family when her father lost his job and her mother's business dwindled. With so many mouths to cater for she hardly ever had time to do what young people did. Go to university and study, visit friends, have meaningful relationships and attend decent social gatherings. She lives in an enclosed world, where she hs no idea of what tomorrow holds..
I cannot say that teenagers born into this categories are less privileged or more prileged than each other. It is also not their fault as no one gets to choose the circumstances surrounding their births and families but then how to relate with teenagers and help teenagers in all of these categories successfully will be explained in the next article on parents and teens.
Thursday, August 25, 2016
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