Parent teen 2

In my first parent teen article, I categorized teenagers based on the type of parents who raised them and the type pf background/ environment they find themselves. The article continues with

THE WEEKEND PARENT RAISED TEEN
Oye’s father works far away from home, the only times he comes home are on weekends, he doesn’t even show up every weekend, Oye gets all she needs from her mother but she still wishes her father comes home frequently or even everyday like her friend’s father. She was always getting into one argument or the other with her mother. They were always fighting, her mother didn’t seem to understand why she needed her privacy, why

she didn’t like wearing a particular cloth as well. She also needed her father’s re-assuring words and encouragement.

Musa hates the fact that his father who was never around will suddenly show up one weekend trying to re-structure his life in a day. He hates the fact that his father who hardlyhad enough time to get to know him concluded easily about issues concerning him and even tries to make decisions for him. His father was always bossy, annoying and inconsiderate.



THE ABHORED TEEN
Damisi being a member of the school of thought that earrings, trousers, hair perming is a sin, Damisi’s parents prevented their daughter from using any of these. They decided what type of clothes to wear, where she could go and where she could spend her time doing. They never allowed her have friends or visit friends. Damisi secretly wishes she was free, able to express herself as well.

Kunle’s parents are uptight and domineering. They liked to enforce their beliefs and opinion. Kunle was their first child and they wanted him to be great, they wanted him to be the best amongst his equals. They never listened to his own point of view or ideas, they didn’t want him to get too convenient, they never wanted him to play with friends or have time for recreation, all they wanted was for him to gain admission to study medicine in the university.
Kunle was totally disturbed about his bothersome parents.

RICH PARENT RAISED TEEN
Yarinya is beautiful and always well dressed. Not only does she have all she wants she never lacks anything she desires. Except for the fact that her parents were too busy to be home relating with her. Her best friends, advisers and confidants were her friends, the maids and the driver. She hardly saw her parents, her mother was always travelling as well.

Ola’s parents are rich Christians and at the same time they have time to spend with him, he is lucky you would say, but there is one thing Ola desires, to be free, to have a feeling of making it on his own, doing things on his own, achieving feats without the help of his parents and their connections but Ola’s parents wouldn’t have it. They were ready to make life easy for their son to the last, even if it meant spending all their money or using all their connection and position in the society.

THE POORLY RAISED TEEN

Iyi is eighteen and he lives with a good samaritan who accepted to be his guardian when his parents fought and separated he was only fifteen then. His mother alone was left with the responsibility if catering for his siblings, she thereby left him in care of this guardian. Iyi in return helps his guardian with housechores as he gets food and shelter Iyi suffers low self esteem terribly, to crown it all, his guardian's children never relate with him as one of them. He blames his parents constantly and therefore harbours bitterness and pain in his heart.

Ego started working as a maid the minute she finished secondary school. First she worked as a canteen maid before becoming a maid to a widow and her children. Ego became the breadwinner of her family when her father lost his job and her mother's business dwindled. With so many mouths to cater for she hardly ever had time to do what young people did. Go to university and study, visit friends, have meaningful relationships and attend decent social gatherings. She lives in an enclosed world, where she hs no idea of what tomorrow holds..

I cannot say that teenagers born into this categories are less privileged or more prileged than each other. It is also not their fault as no one gets to choose the circumstances surrounding their births and families but then how to relate with teenagers and help teenagers

in all of these categories successfully will be explained in the next article on parents and teens.

Diary of an Ibadan corper 6

The months flew past and everything became routine like and monotonous. Temptations to stab CDS started coming, it was easy kind of, all I had to do was ask someone to sign for me, of course signature will be forged, but I still was unable to do it. you may say it is because I like being honest and avoiding untruthfulness, discrepancies and the likes, you may say I have a very active guilty conscience or maybe it’s the fact that I know that nothing comes free the person who helps me sign today will expect that I repay the “good deed” someday soon and God knows I don’t have such guts. Anyway bottom line is I couldn’t do it , so my trips to Ibadan north local government continued weekly.

The annoying queues came too as well as unending annoying addresses they usually gave, come to think of it, those address hardly benefitted one. It was either the local government inspector was complaining about indecent dressing or he was complaining about certain payments.

There was a time SAED ,skill acquisition training was compulsory.
So compulsory that without a SAED pass from whoever you are training with you are not allowed to sign monthly clearance, which implies that your allawee that month might go missing. So we had to keep up with SAED, some of us go to bribe our SAED trainers for clearance especially those who never attended classes or pay “training money” but then I had to pay training money at some points o. unfortunately the SAED that was compulsory later became optional after complaints got to the ogas at the top I think. You know SAED was actually supposed to be a good initiative initially, people learn handworks and crafts that might be useful to them even if they are unable to get jobs. But like every other initiative or innovation in Nigeria it was turned into an unscrupulous means of syphoning money.

Well there is good in bad and there is bad in good, as some people still benefited from this ventures, one of the good things I appreciate my NYSC experience for , one of the memorable things I participated in then was visits to the orphanage homes. Yes I was in charity CDS. We visited one particular orphanage one time, it was a special orphanage for abnormal children, I was shocked and amazed to see that in Nigeria we still have individuals who believe in disabled children. Everyone at the orphanage (special) that day was touched and withdra

wn, we all couldn’t fathom how the owner of the orphanage and her co-workers and helpers are able to look at the children not to talk of care for them. I imagined what must be going on through the minds of these children, I wonder if they that something is wrong with them. I felt really sorry that there were teenagers and even adults amongst them who still looked like babies because of the disability.

As we sang for them they made gestures which implied that they were excited and happy. We were at least glad that we could do something for them that appealed to their emotions other than give them food and clothing. There are other experiences this Ibadan corper went through….. sharing experience continues

Your television might be killing you....

“that’s definitely not possible, at least in this generation”! my friend was quick to respond when I declared it would do young people more good to stay away from television.

Did somebody just say really? Yes really and seriously! A lot of young people today have problems with their academics because of excessive viewing , a teacher once complained bitterly about the fallen standard of education.
I am not saying that television is entirely bad, there are times when you watch certain interesting and benefitting programs but for those who spend an abnormal amount of time in front of a T.V its definitely killing you gradually.

It diminishes your IQ because it reduces your ability to think critically since while watching T.V the brain activities switches from left to right and the right side tends not to critically analyze incoming information. You waste certain hours of your life watching other people making money.

Excessive television viewing can increase your risk of premature death, this is because it has been linked to degenerative brain disorders later in life such as dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. If you are over the age of 25 every hour spent in front of the T.V cuts 22minutes off your life span! That can equate to five years worth if you watch T.V six hours a day which some people actually do!
Have you ever wondered why you feel tired, empty, headache after watching T.V for long hours? Its because while watching your brain shuts off, energy is sapped since it has no work to do ,remember the saying its either you use it or lose it! this goes for the brain too. Watching T.V also puts you into a form of hypnotic state that is why people sleep while watching T.V.
Reading which we find difficult is a better option. This is because when you read your brain has to use its imagination to come up with feelings described in a book or an article. Although there are a few television programs that give room for imaginative thinking, reading still performs a better job. Reduce the amount of time you spend watching T.V. determine to read more this increases your brain’s longevity.